Commitments & Comfort Zones

Commitments & Comfort Zones

We all encounter situations that require us to make choices. Often, we have to factor in the potential reaction and results from our decisions and how they will affect us. Many of the choices we are faced with allow us to achieve the desired results and at other times, the anticipation of our decisions can have negative impact on our well being.

We all have to make commitments to others and to getting tasks completed that we are not always comfortable with, but these scenarios are a necessary part of our lives. It is important that we honour our commitments instead of retreating into our comfort zones and avoiding situations.

We all have our comfort zones, or happy places that allow us to relax and find contentment by removing the negatives in our lives, allowing us to reset and re-focus. It could be a place that you find solace, or a person with whom you have a great connection. You may find that a nice solitary walk helps you to find rejuvenation, or maybe by escaping into a good story though movies or reading a great book. These comfort zones are essential to our well being and it is necessary that we make time for these as well.

Here is something to consider though. Are you truly retreating to your comfort zone because it is a way to help you unwind after the completion of necessary tasks, or are you retreating to avoid facing challenges that you are unsure how to overcome and using the comfort zone as a distraction from doing the things that you need (and want) to accomplish? 

I am constantly assessing my life and my goals and reflecting on what the steps are that I want to follow to develop good productive habits and work towards achieving the things that I desire in my life. I have goals I need to achieve and I am willing to put in the effort, so I outline my plans and start with good intentions. I see what I need to do and how to get there, but just as I am ready to start taking the steps I need to complete, I hesitate and fall back into the pattern of seeking solace in my own comfort zone.

I tell myself that I am using that time to focus and gain the momentum to face my challenges, and work towards completing the tasks I have outlined that will bring me closer to achieving my goals, but that is not always the truth.

By retreating to my comfort zone, what happens is I spend that time reflecting on the things that I need (and want) to get completed but by hesitating, I begin to question my own abilities. I start to wonder whether I can actually achieve my goals, or whether I have the knowledge and skills to complete tasks that have been assigned to me. By not being open to learning new challenges and embracing the reality that I will make mistakes, I deny myself the sense of satisfaction of overcoming challenges and proving to myself that even though I may not have developed the skills yet, anything is achievable if I commit to not only starting a task, but seeing it through to completion.

We must allow ourselves the chance to develop new skills, and embrace new experiences by taking some risks and seeking assistance as required. We can set our goals, which is a great motivator, but each goal that we want to achieve has many steps that all need to be followed for success. By retreating to our comfort zones, we deny ourselves the chance to achieve the first step, and that first step leads to the second, and so on.

Make a commitment to following the steps, work on the challenges, seek assistance as needed, be willing to learn and see how all of your focused efforts result in achievements that you never truly realized you could do.

It is not until you face the commitments you have made and embrace these steps that you will truly find solace and contentment. Let your comfort zone be the reward for celebrating your efforts and achievements instead of the safe haven that denies you from obtaining the goals and dreams you desire. 

3 thoughts on “Commitments & Comfort Zones

  1. You hit the nail on the head with so many of your observations, Michael. I find solace in many solitary retreats, and my procrastination makes me postpone commitments . I hate feeling guilty about it, but I continue to do it! Arrrgh! Working on it.
    I find that as I approach the last chapters of my life, I don’t have any long-term goals anymore. That in itself brings a kind of relief. Staying healthy and active, keeping in touch with close friends, seeing my kids, bathing my mind in quietness….these are my immediate goals. I’m still learning new things. I’m happy.

    1. I love your comment because you understand the intention of the message. I love to sit and make lists of things I want to accomplish but get sidetracked by my own insecurities and find myself seeking solace to reset and focus on getting things done but what ends up happening is the same lists get made over and over again and my progress is stalled by my own hesitations.

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